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Personal Growth begins with asking yourself honest questions.

1. Does your life have direction?
If you are not intentionally headed anywhere, don't expect to get anywhere. I have spoken with countless people who just live life. With the exception of a planned vacation or two, they get up everyday and do the same thing they did yesterday. Most people have no plan, no goals, and no vision for the future. Gods word tells us that people perish because of lack of vision. Don't you think a road trip would have a better chance of being successful if it were planned out ahead of time, writing down where you wanted to go, what you wanted to see and what it would cost to get there? Life is nothing but a road trip. You can either just open your eyes and try your best to handle whatever comes your way or you can be specific; write down what you want to accomplish, what you want to experience, when you want to experience it and what it will cost. The first step to personal growth is having direction.
2. Are you growing?
When the average person gets out of school the amount of learning they do drops to almost nothing. As a matter of fact, most adults learn by accidental experience or because their employer makes them take continuing education classes; not because they have a desire to learn. Ask anyone one of these folks if they would like to earn a higher wage, travel more and retire without worrying about money and they will all say "Sure". Ask the same folks if they would like to be a better spouse, better parent and have a closer relationship with God and again you will hear, "Sure". However ask them what they are doing to improve themselves in any of these area's and you will get that "Deer in the headlight" look.
You can pray all you want, but remember what James said; "Faith without works is dead" If you want to be a better anything, you must learn to be better. Read all you can on the topic of desired growth, attend seminars, take online courses, get teaching on CD's and listen to them on the way to work. With today's technology, if you are not learning it is because you choose not to learn and therefore, you also choose not to grow. Read This First
3. Are you lying to yourself?
OK maybe lying is a bit harsh. How about denial? I hear over and over again, My life is just fine, my relationship with God is Ok, my marriage is fine, my children are fine, I make enough money, and my health is Ok too. Then when life throws them a curve ball, they fall apart. The kids get in trouble, the spouse leaves or has an affair, the Doctor say's they have high blood pressure or diabetes and their faith begins to crumble as they wonder were God is. Everyone thinks they are OK, until life proves otherwise. The best way to be OK is to realize that while we will never be perfect, we can always be better. If there is a way for me to be a better Christian, I want it. A better Father, I want that too, a better spouse, you bet. If I can become healthier, I want that as well. Take a minute right now and look at every area of your life, write down the areas that can use the most improvement and start with them. See Examine Thyself for help.
4. Are you a procrastinator?
Most of what you have been reading probably isn't new to you. They are simple facts that make sense. However, reading and believing are one thing. Doing; well that's an entire different page that many never get to.
Procrastinating can be cured fairly easy. You just need the consequences for NOT doing it to be far greater then they are right now. This can usually happen by looking deeper then you are currently.
When I had Gall Stones I put off having my gallbladder removed for over a year. I came up with all the excuses, God will heal me, If I just eat right I will be fine, you name it I said it. Then when I was speaking to the doctor about it, he simply said one sentence to me. "You don't have to get it out Bob, you can go home and die. It doesn't matter to me one way or the other." It took about 20 seconds for me to say, "When can we do this?"
I found ways to put up with the pain, get around the discomfort and even tolerate the emergency room visits. However, when I suddenly thought about not seeing my daughter grow up, or my sons get old and my wife trying to raise them on her own, it wasn't hard for me to get off my behind and schedule a surgery date.
When you think about the consequences of not improving yourself; I mean really think deep, you will find reasons that will change the way you think about retirement, about parenting, about relationships; both with your spouse and with your creator and you will WANT to change.