Examine Thyself

The following questions may be rough for some of you. You may want to lie and fabricate a good answer, be honest with yourself. If you find yourself needing some work in an area, don't beat yourself up, consider it a blessing for seeing an area that can be improved upon before it is too late.

On a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 being the worse and 10 being the best, how would YOU rate yourself in the following areas?
What kind of spouse are you?

What kind of parent are you?

What kind of employee are you?

What kind of Christian are you?

How do you handle your finances?

How do you take care of your health?

Now for every area you did not rate yourself a 10, write down what you need to do in order to become a 10. If you need help in the relationship area, read all you can about relationships, attend couples retreats and conferences. Do the same with every area that needs improvement.

Now if you were honest, you have done well.

However, because God talks about every man being right in his own eyes, I have a way to help you see clearly.

This one will be tough, but worth it.

Take the same questions and ask your spouse to rate you using the same scale. However, for the privilege of rating you; they must also give you suggestions on what it will take for you to become a 10 and then be willing to help you get there. If you are not married, use a parent, pastor or close friend that will tell you the truth. Don't worry if they don't ask you to do the same, we all must work on ourselves first. Besides, when you point your finger at someone else, you have three pointing back at you! Maybe if you are the role model for improvement, they will want to better themselves as well.

Again, writing the steps to take accomplishes nothing unless you take action.

You must do what it takes to bring improvement. Start with baby steps and work your way up to the hard ones. Seek help though other people, teachers, books etc. If you could succeed on your own, you would have done so already.

If you need some direction, email me and I will do what I can. bobwagner@bobwagner.org